Life is always changing. If we cope with the many changes we face, we have the opportunity to grow with the
situation rather than be overcome by it. We have hope and feel empowered or we feel helpless. Dr.
Kobasa and her colleagues studied the difference between the two extremes, growing with a
situation and feeling
hopeful or being ov
erwhelmed and feeling
helpless. Dr.
Kobasa determined
that individuals dealing with great stress could be protected by a combination of three attitudes which describe a "stress hardy" person.
1) Commitment - allowing yourself to be
involved in and curious about the situation and how it can become an opportunity to learn about yourself.
2) Control - believing that you have the power to influence events and the willingness to take action for your best.
3) Challenge - believing that life changes can promote
personal growth.
Changing thoughts about events or self can help to alter your stress reactions. Albert Ellis, found of Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy noted that it is not the event we react to but our interpretation of the event.
Many factors contribute to the causation of
stress overload; th
erefore interventions address seven basic levels:
PHYSICAL
Relaxation
Control breathing
Exercise
Appropriate Nutrition and sleep
EMOTIONAL
Identify what you are feeling
Acknowledge and express those feelings
BEHAVIORAL
Face your fears, do not avoid them
Engage in healthy
coping behaviors
MENTAL
Identify and counter destructive thinking
BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND
Develop positive affirmations and use them
INTERPERSONAL
Learn to assertively communicate your needs and feelings to others
Learn to set boundaries
WHOLE SELF
Develop a more positive sense of self
Set and work toward concrete goals
Validate yourself with nurturing self-talk
EXISTENTIAL AND SPIRITUAL
Identify your purpose and passions to find greater meaning
Develop your talents, actualizing your unrealized potential
Spiritual commitment
Lasting management of stress will typically occur when you are willing to make changes in the above levels, exercising control over your thoughts and taking positive action steps, and believing life challenges can lead to personal growth. Learn to be "stress hardy" and become empowered and hopeful.
Marcia Overstreet, LPC
541 245-9610